How to Set Summer Boundaries with College Kids—Without Power Struggles

If you expect your college student to find a part-time job over the summer, make that clear early on—ideally during your “Welcome Home” conversation.

Rather than dictating what they must do, ask about their goals and how a job might help them meet those goals.

For example:

“What are your plans for earning money this summer?” or
“How do you see balancing work, rest, and time with friends?”

A summer job can teach budgeting, time management, and independence—but it shouldn’t come at the cost of recovery after a demanding school year.

Respect their need to rest while still being honest about your family’s financial expectations or your hope that they contribute in some way.

The key is collaboration, not coercion. When your child feels included in the decision, they’re more likely to take ownership of it.