BEFORE YOU MAKE THAT DECISION – SpicesofWomanhood
CONSIDER THESE:
Marriage is a journey that demands much more than just initial feelings of love. It’s a complex and challenging path that requires constant effort and unconditional commitment from both partners. It’s crucial to acknowledge that even after getting married many individuals often struggle with feelings of loneliness.
WHY?
Many people get married just because they are ”in love” without considering whether they are compatible.
It is a fact that many get married without knowing if they truly align in terms of their life assignment and destiny.
Their paths are diverging despite their professed love for each other. They blatantly disregard other crucial factors essential for a successful marriage. It is an undeniable fact that once the honeymoon phase fades away, which typically takes 1-3 years of marriage, there may be little or nothing left to sustain the relationship. This is particularly true when children are involved. It is almost inevitable to hear them say;
● ” I have fallen out of love with him/her”
● “I don’t love him/her anymore.”
At this stage, what follows is bickering and infidelity, as they begin to look elsewhere.
Please look beyond “Love”.
I completely agree that love is indeed a wonderful feeling and plays a crucial role in a marriage. However, there may be situations where love alone might not be enough to sustain the relationship. It is unfortunate, but sometimes couples have irreconcilable differences, despite their love for each other. It’s important to remember that every relationship is unique and requires different things to make it work.
Genuine love is beyond what we see today as love.
Back in the day, marriages seemed to be more successful than they are now. The divorce rate was incredibly low, and there were fewer separations. This may have been because people married for the right reasons. Even if there was no love initially, they learnt to love each other later.
Unfortunately, most marriages today are solely based on love, as people can eventually grow out of love, develop hatred towards each other, and even become enemies. This can leave their children in a state of limbo, which is a very difficult situation for them to navigate. Couples need to consider all aspects of their relationship before getting married, especially if they have or are considering having children.
I strongly recommend that you don’t rely solely on love while in a relationship or when deciding to get married. Statistically speaking, around 60% of couples who choose to marry for love alone end up divorced or separated. Therefore, it’s important to take other factors into consideration as well.
Building a strong bond with your partner is key to a happy and healthy relationship. While negative emotions may arise, there are effective ways to overcome them and strengthen your connection. Consider implementing a few of these strategies to improve your relationship and deepen your love for one another.
😀 “Always prioritize open communication and mutual support in your relationships. When it comes to marriage, choose a partner based on companionship rather than solely on external factors. Remember, it’s crucial to prioritize your needs and values in your relationships to build a strong and fulfilling connection.
😀Choosing the right life partner is crucial to achieving your goals. Look for someone who shares your vision and is committed to supporting you through all the ups and downs, with or without love. A supportive and loving partner can make all the difference in achieving your dreams.”
😀Marry someone who matches your life goals, and assignments and is willing to walk with you all the way, love or no love.
😀It’s important to find someone who shares your direction in life and is willing to support your career without making you feel guilty.
Don’t just search for love, seek great values in people too. It’s crucial to remember that wisdom is the most important thing.
Cheers😀
